Winning Friends

Ideally I fully agree with the post in this webbie..
http://winningeveryone.com/friendship/friends-how-to-win-friends-and-influence-them/#comment-270

Especially the winning friends section where it talks about the hows? Its what I actually look for in friendship (which I'm grateful to say I have some from NS and few leftover from Poly Days) though I myself have at times (maybe more than afew :p) strayed from the path. Heard some people say before in my lifetime, that friends has no responsibility to one another be it to help or getting one another to do stuff, its just a word to show I know this person.. I disagree.. to me.. friendship is about being there to help one another be it physically or mentally wherever or whenever possible. But it's true, forcing another friend to do stuff is not good but one can always request.

Why call the other person a friend, when your mindset would be.. I have no obligation to help this or that friend and so I won't.

And it's also true that its really frustrating when people ignore your smses, emails, or messages, especially when theres something u wanna know or need, this can also include people ignoring u when u try to join in their conversations by not even giving you a single response.
Imagine you're waiting for your friend who's already 20-30 minutes late to arrive and you want to know if u should wait for him/her, or just walk around first, or did he change his/her mind about going, and he/she dun reply at all.
Or when a question is asked or a request is made.

People often complain they are being ignored, and yet they too ignore other people, maybe intentionally, maybe not, who knows right? But ignoring other's is not nice.. imagine being one of the small minority who's been ignored in a group outing, at times frustrating but more often its sad.

*quote from website mentioned above*It is also very important to show respect for the other person’s opinions. Even if you think his or her idea is bad, do not object strongly but recommend your friend with a better idea.*End Quote*

Its true.. many times during project discussions we tend to just object strongly to ideas given by each other without a thought to how they feel, often it's because it does not match what we ourselves have in mind. They may feel its a great idea and to be put down in a strong manner, would only encourage them to decide to not contribute further, preventing ideas which would have greatly improved the project, to be stuffed into the back of the person's head.